the giving in to suffering

"Do I hope that if feeling disguises itself as thought I shall feel less?  Aren't all these notes the senseless writhings of a man who won't accept the fact that there is nothing we can do with suffering except to suffer it?  Who still thinks there is some device (if only he could find it) which will make pain not be pain.  It doesn't really matter whether you grip the arms of the dentist's chair or let your hands lie in your lap.  The drill drills on."  CS Lewis from A Grief Observed